Exploitation is formed by two parties, one of which is a beneficiary and the other, the non-beneficiary. This is the contrary to a fair healthy relationship. The rule is that the two parties should be beneficiaries; otherwise, there will be imbalance. When a person is exploited, he must realize that he is the reason why he unconsciously put himself in the situation and he is the one who allowed this situation to occur. 

 Realizing that he is the responsible is a great thing! As he will be the one who will solve the problem in a simple way, but if he blames others, he will simply continue to suffer as well.  

What Attracts exploiters into your life? 

- When you lose confidence in yourself. 

- When you lose your self-esteem and seek appreciation from others. 

- When you think less of yourself and you feel that others are better than you, so you try to (buy) self-worth from or through them? 

Thinking less of yourself is the first reason to be a victim of exploitation. The person who does positive things desiring to be seen as a good person by other people, derives his value from others. This is done unconsciously and makes him fall like a prey to their exploitation. Perhaps he did so under the name of Altruism. This is a serious mistake that makes him happy at first, and then, after draining all his energy and becoming unable to give, he will be surprised that people around him have disappeared from his life because they used to exploit and take advantage of him without providing anything to him. They are also used to be the only party benefiting in this relationship. This will make him vulnerable to experience many negative attitudes and attract more exploiters to his life.  

When you sacrifice for others, it means that you are doing things against your will and wishes hoping to make you look better in front of others or to have the level of respect and appreciation you desire. The proof that your behavior is not right is that you are experiencing a range of negative feelings if the other party does not appreciate what you did or offended you instead or sees that what you do for him is an acquired right, and you should not be thanked for it.  

Altruism, definitively, does not mean to sacrifice and put yourself under pressure. Altruism is the finest of this situation. Altruism is done just for God with putting him first and in the center; where you enjoy giving without waiting for anything in return, moreover if others abuse you instead, you will show high emotion as you prove honestly before yourself that your act was for God not for other people. And you continue doing positive deeds which is something can only be done by a person who has high awareness and higher faith as well.  

He who sacrifices, lives with a principle of (giving priority and preference to others over himself). This is the contrary to what our religion ordered us; you first then others. (O you who have believed, upon you the responsibility of taking care of yourself). In another verse “It is not required of you, to set others on the right path”. If you follow these verses and give priority to yourself then others, you will, always, live a positive life. You will be able to give throughout your life joyfully without being affected in a negative way and without waiting for anything in return. You will derive your reward from God the Lord of mankind, then you will be surprised by how your relationships will be transformed to the best condition.  

Four practical steps to get rid of exploitation:  

1- Be aware that you are the reason and make up your mind to end this situation whatever the results are 

2 - Dealing with the principle of (I am the first beneficiary and then others, me first and then others). 

3 - Learn to say “No”. Say it strongly if you find that what is required affects your feelings negatively or puts you under pressure. 

4- Get your value from God, not from people, for God you are the successor (Khalifa), so be free with God, it does not matter what peoples think of you 

If you follow these four steps, you will, surely, see a great improvement in your life, yet some negative attributes by exploiters should be expected to occur when they see you begin to change. So, be cautious of their emotional blackmail at first and be strong and persistent.